Eddies Advice: You’ve Got a Problem? We’ve Got Answers

By Ashley Bowden and Mackenzie Tufts

Hello and welcome to the fourth edition of the Eddies Advice! It’s been a little while hasn’t it? Come on guys, keep those questions coming in, we love hearing from you and helping out our fellow classmates! Everything is anonymous, unless permission granted otherwise. Leave a comment down below or email us at AskAnEddie@gmail.com We answer all sorts of questions. Having problems with a friend? Ask An Eddie! Struggling to keep up the good grades? Ask An Eddie! Do it, you know you want to!

1)Dear Eddies Advice,

There’s someone I know who has had a “crush” on me for 4 years. I have tried every possible solution explaining that I am not interested, yet he doesn’t understand that we’re not going to happen. He even went behind my back to my mother to get her support so now I hear about it everywhere I go. He’s a definite player and cheater so I don’t trust what he says is real. The feeling just isn’t mutual. Got any advice?

-Relationship problems

Dear Relationship Problems,

     I did have a solution that would probably be really effective for you, but it wasn’t considered okay to put in the paper. So instead, I’d suggest avoiding him completely. It sounds like you’ve been trying to be nice about it, but he obviously isn’t getting it. And going behind your back to talk to your mom about it? That is honestly creepy and makes him sound even more obsessive. So keep away. Block him on any social network, ignore him if he tries to talk to you in the hall, etc.

-M

Dear Relationship Problems,

I’ve had a few people be mega creeps towards me so although I’ve never been in that situation, I know that some people can be annoying and hard to deal with. I would start with explaining to you Mom how you feel about him and letting her know that you don’t like him like that and would prefer not to hear about him. Then I would try to talk to him. Let him know that you don’t feel the same way and that you probably never will. Be nice, but blunt, about it to. You need to get your message across or he won’t understand that you mean it. If he continues to bother you then I would talk your mom again letting her know of the issue and seeing if there is something you can do about it. The best thing is to do your best to ignore it and try to get him to understand that it’s just not going to happen.

-A

2) I want to sign up for one of those college courses, but I’m kind of nervous about it all. Any advice?

-Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

I know trying something new can be a bit scary, but I think you should just go for it. There have been a lot of things I have wanted to do throughout high school, but let my fears and anxiety get in the way and I missed out on a lot of great opportunities. Don’t be scared to just go out and do something. There are lots of other students doing this as well. Maybe you could speak with some of them and get a better idea about what it is all about or something. Just take the risk and go for it!

-A

3) I’m supposed to present a project after break in front of the entire class. I always get nervous in front of people and say something stupid. How should I prepare for this?

-Socially Awkward

Dear Socially Awkward,

I am right there with you my friend! I do not do well in front of people. Although I don’t say anything stupid, I just stutter and get hot and get ready to cry. So yeah, this may not seem like I’m in any place to give advice on this situation, but don’t worry! I actually have been working really hard on this. Maybe try presenting your project in front of your family, or your friends before hand. Sometimes I’ve asked the teacher if one of my friends can stand up with me and that tends to help, just knowing that you’re not alone and not all eyes are on you. Saying something stupid can be funny sometimes to loosen things up a bit. Just try to relax, and don’t think about it. It’s easier than you think.

-A

Dear Socially Awkward,

    I know exactly how that feels. Trust me, no one really likes getting up in front of the class to present. It isn’t fun for anyone. For me, it helps to practice saying everything out loud by myself. It makes it a little easier if I really know what I’m talking about. For when you’re going to present, I’d suggest volunteering to go early if you can. That way you can get it over with and not be stressed out about it for the entire period. When you’re speaking, don’t nervously just start rambling. Keep on track and focused on your project. And just remember, people are most likely too worried about their own presentation to be judging yours.

-M

4) Lately, I’ve found myself growing more and more aggravated with little things and finding it hard not to lash out at people. How am I supposed to let out my aggression without hurting anyone physically or emotionally?

-An Angry Teen

Dear An Angry Teen,

Anger is a tough thing to deal with. I know it’s hard not to just totally flip. There are many different methods as to letting out anger, you just have to find the one that’s right for you. I remember being at a friends house and she had one of those large punching bags and I beat on that thing for quite some time. Just remember that you don’t want to hurt anyone. No one deserves to be hit or be called names. Everyone says just walk away, and it’s true. Before you get heated up in an argument or something, just walk away. Ignore them and leave. We are here if you need us, just stay calm!

-A

5) My friend is constantly making bad decisions and I try my best to help her, but she never listens to me. She says she’s fine or that it’s whatever, but then posts all over Facebook that things are going wrong and she doesn’t know what to do. It makes me feel like a horrible friend. What am I supposed to do?

-Feeling Miserable

Dear Feeling Miserable,

You are in no way a bad friend and don’t ever think that. I know it’s hard not to believe that, but it’s true. The best thing you can do in a situation like that is try your best because in the end your friend is going to do what she wants and you can’t really stop anything. The only thing you can do it try and and be there when she needs you. The post on Facebook may just be her way of seeking attention for something she doesn’t need. Things will work out, just remember that as long as you are doing your best then you are indeed a very good friend.

-A

 

6) My friend is such a [drama queen]. She always posts depressing things on Facebook looking for sympathy when nothing is actually wrong. She acts like she has the toughest life or that things are never going right for her when, in reality, things are fine and she screws things up for herself. I want to freak out and just say whatever, but she’s my best friend and I can’t bring myself to do it, but it’s really starting to bother me because things aren’t okay for me and I can’t ever talk to her because everything has to tie back to her. Who am I supposed to confide in if I don’t have my best friend?

-Emotionally Freaking Out.

 

Dear Emotionally Freaking Out,

I think you should try to find some better friends. Your drama queen one obviously isn’t a great friend to you and maybe you should just stop being around her. I promise, there are people who will care about whatever is going on with you. You just have to get away from the negative people in your life and find them. Things will feel a little less terrible if you have at least one real, good friend who will be there for you.

-M

Dear Emotionally Freaking Out,

I have a friend just like this. Ignoring it is the best you can do and just be there if she needs you and move on. I keep her around because she is a great friend when she’s not throwing herself out there. I enjoy the being able to insult and pulling out here ‘I told you so’ with this situation. I am straightforward and blunt with her. So if it bothers you a lot then I would draw some lines with her and tell her to cut the crap.

-A

 

 

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