Ask an Eddie: Seniors Seriously Scared and Student’s Self-Consciousness

By Ashley Bowden, ’14

Oh, hello there friend, didn’t see you there. Welcome to the fifth edition of Ask and Eddie! It’s a new semester and we’ve got new advice for you, well it’s always new, but you know what I mean. Don’t be shy, send in a question! Struggling with keeping up with all your classes? Ask An Eddie! Don’t know how to deal with a friend? Ask An Eddie! We invite any and all questions. Just leave a comment below or send an email to AskAnEddie@gmail.com everything will remain anonymous unless permission granted otherwise. Read on, and I hope this advice is helpful.

 

1) Dear Eddies Advice,

Now that it’s the new semester I’ve finally realized how close the end of my senior year is and I’m freaking out. I’m just not ready to leave this school and be on my own in a way. Do you have any advice to help me relax?

-A Scared Senior

Dear Scared Senior,

I am right there with you! I am a senior as well and I don’t want this year to ever end. You spend your whole life waiting for school to be over, but once it has arrived you wish you could rewind the clock. I guess our parents were right about enjoying it weren’t they? However, as scary as it is, we are finally there. We have survived and we are ready to do something with our lives. This isn’t the end, it’s a new beginning. Just as when you move from elementary to middle school or middle school to high school. You’re just taking the next step and you will still have friends and your family to help you, you aren’t going to completely lose them. I know there is no real way for me to put your mind at ease other than to just close your eyes and take a deep breath and remember, it’s just a new beginning.

-A

2) Dear Eddies Advice,

I’m struggling keeping up with all my classes and my grades and don’t know how to manage my time to make sure it all gets done. Help!

-Poor Time Manager

Dear Time Manager,

I procrastinate like there is no tomorrow! Whole project due tomorrow, first period? I dothe research and writing at night and put it together in the morning. I literally wake up at 3 in the morning to finish it. However, I have been working on getting better about this all year because I have a lot of things going on, in and out of school, and if I don’t manage my time, nothing will get done. So I’m new to this time management thing, but I will try my best to assist.

Having a planner is a good way to start. I use my phone calendar for now or something on my iPod because I don’t have a physical calendar right now. Also those send me reminders, so it helps a bit more than a physical book I might forget to look at. So just start with the obvious: write it down. Make a list of what you need to get done, and make sure you give yourself a good amount of time to get it done.

So here’s my example of this evening. I had to email someone to set up an interview, respond to comments and upload chapters to Wattpad, get a page or two written of a story, do psych homework, write this advice column, and start an opinion piece. I looked over what I needed to do and thought about how long it normally takes me to do things. I sent the email as soon as had time, on my phone on the ride home. Then when I got home I responded to comments before doing my chores, started my psych homework, then worked on creative writing, then the column, then the opinion piece. I made sure to space them out and do something in between for a break.

You want to organize things by time, and importance so that if you don’t get to the last few things, it’s not that bad. If the last items are short, it’s also less stressful as it gets later in the evening. If you make plans with friends, do it after you check what you have to do and if you’re going to be busy, don’t make the plans or make sure you push them back. That’s about it really. List it, think about it, do it.

If you have any more questions just shoot me another email and I can help more.

-A

3) Dear Eddies Advice,

I’m really worried about my friend. I love her to death, but I feel she puts herself out there too easily and too quickly and I don’t want her to get hurt because she always gets hurt. How can I get her to stop?

-Friend Trouble

Dear Friend Trouble,

There isn’t really a way you can stop her, unfortunately. You can only warn her about your fears. Let her know that it concerns you and explain why it does. You should just talk it out with her because otherwise things won’t get solved. Maybe she doesn’t realize what she’s doing. Bring it up, but don’t attack her; just say that there’s something that’s bothering you and you wanted to voice your concerns to her and let things go from there. I wish you the best of luck and feel free to talk to me again if things don’t go so well.

-A

4) Dear Eddies Advice,

How do you deal with the transition of the new semester? The new people, and the new classes? It’s just stressing me out.

-Stranger Stress

Dear Stranger Stress,

Right! You get used to the flow of things, then BAM! It all changes. However, it can also be a good thing to mix things up. It can be stressful yes, but it also doesn’t have to be. It’s like starting the year over in a way. Empty out your folders of the old stuff and get ready for the new. You get a fresh start with grades, which is always good. I think you might just be putting too much thought into the whole idea. Just step back, relax, and move forward. We are halfway through the school year. This is a good thing!

-A

5) Dear Eddies Advice,

I just needed a place to vent everything out because college applications and senior year has been so stressful and I just don’t know what to do right now. I feel like I haven’t done anything and I’m not going anywhere and will do nothing with my life. It’s really frustrating me!

-Senior Stress

Dear Senior Stress,

I totally get it. I’ve already had about three freak outs where I like walked around for a week stressed out and mumbled that I was giving up and going nowhere. I think one weekend I literally would just stop in random places and do nothing. I almost made it to bed, but gave up and said, “Why sleep when I have no life anyway” and was half on my bed, half on the floor, mumbling about random stuff. My friend kicked me in the butt and told me to grow up –  how lovely. She pulled me up on the bed and tucked me in, she literally treated me like a little kid. It made me feel better, though, and the next day I was very productive with a ton of my work. So, I don’t know if this is the best advice, but it helped me.

Literally, just give up for one week. Let yourself wallow in misery because when you realize how pathetic and stupid it is, you push yourself and know that you won’t let anything happen to yourself. If that doesn’t work and you spiral into a dark abyss of nothingness send someone to me for help! Have a lovely day.

-A

6) Dear Eddies Advice,

I’ve been having more issues than normal lately with my self-consciousness. I’m not the biggest fan of how I look and lately I’ve been putting myself down a lot and feel horrible. I hate looking into the mirror in the morning because all I can see are flaws. I hate walking down the halls because I feel everyone is staring and judging me. Overall I just don’t feel happy with myself and it has never really been this bad before. Do you have any advice for me on ways I can feel better?

-Self Conscious

Dear Self Conscious,

I am sorry you’ve been struggling with this issue. I know plenty of people, including myself, who deal with this problem and it’s no fun. It’s not easy to feel good about yourself, but it is possible. There are positive things you can do to change things about you in a healthy way! Eat healthy foods, exercise, and don’t stress about the little stuff.

You are so brave for coming to someone about this, you know that it’s an issue and you want to fix it, and you can. I want you to look in the mirror. I don’t want you to just look at yourself, though, I want you to really see yourself for who you are. Look at all your features and instead of picking things apart, say out loud what you like. I always get compliments on my eyes and I do really love my eyes. So if you like your eyes say that. Look at them and say “Hey, I have really nice eyes, I like that.” What about your hair? I know mine is a struggle and I hate it some days, but when I step back and think about it all I say “I like how long and thick my hair is, it’s actually really pretty.” Then think about your personality. Are you funny? Are you a hard worker? What do you do that you like. Mine is that I have had people tell them how much my writing has inspired them so I say “I am helping others just by being me. That’s a good thing. I’m important to someone.” You are important to someone as well. Don’t overthink things. When you want to pick something apart, then just do that. Think about what you like about yourself. I’m sure you’re just fine and I am always here if you need to vent again! I hope I helped because no one should feel bad about themselves. Smile!

-A

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